The relationship between therapist and client is one of the most important parts of counseling, but how do you choose the “right” therapist for you?
Choosing the “Right” Therapist Starts with Asking Yourself Questions
Identify what you are looking for from the counseling experience. Counselors have different backgrounds and specialties, as well as unique counseling styles. Determining what you are looking for narrows down your search. Remember, choosing the “right” therapist for you may look different than others, and that’s okay. The following are exploratory questions to get you started.
What would you like to work on in counseling, and why is the issue important now?
Therapists provide talk therapy for a wide range of different human issues, covering everything from relationships to anxiety to life transitions to trauma. Selecting a counselor who has experience with your area of concern is often beneficial.
Do you have an identity that you would like your counselor to understand or have expertise in?
For example, there are counselors who specialize in LGBTQIAP+ issues or those who provide faith-based counseling.
How would you like to meet with your counselor?
Depending on the provider, you may be able to do in-person or virtual counseling. Your location, access to technology, schedule, and personal preference can determine which works best for you.
If you have done therapy in the past, what was helpful and what was not?
Every counseling experience is unique, and finding a good fit can take a little bit. Use your past experience to determine what might work for you going forward.
Would you like to use your health insurance or private pay?
Check with your insurance company to understand your coverage. Keep in mind that your particular issue may not be covered by your insurance provider. For example, marriage and couples therapy is often not covered. Private pay means that you pay for the counseling costs out of pocket. Private-pay counseling can be beneficial for a number of reasons:
- No insurance record or third-party-insurance access to your mental health information.
- May be less expensive than insurance if you have limited coverage.
- Ability to select a counselor without insurance network limitations.
- No formal diagnosis is required as is typical with insurance companies.
- Many private-pay providers can issue a superbill, which clients can take directly to their insurance provider for access to out-of-network benefits.
- Many providers offer a sliding fee scale for those who qualify based on income.
How much can you afford to invest in your mental health?
The cost of a counseling session can vary greatly depending on the provider, the location, the level of experience/education, the specialty, and a variety of other factors. A rough average would be anywhere from $125-$250 per session.
Finding the “Right” Therapist Requires Researching Options
With an understanding of what you are looking for from the counseling experience, you can begin searching for providers who meet your requirements.
A simple Google search for counselors near you can get you started, or use a counselor directory like psychologytoday.comor therapist.com to search based on your parameters. Make sure to do your research. Read the therapist’s bio, reviews, and any other web materials that can help you understand their approach to counseling. The following are a few questions to consider:
- Do they specialize in helping people with your particular concern?
- Are they a licensed therapist in your state?
- How long have they been in practice?
- How closely do they match your requirements?
- Do they present themself in a professional way that makes you feel comfortable?
Consider asking your primary care provider or a friend or family member for recommendations, too. Keep in mind that you may not be able to use the same counselor as a family member or friend if a conflict of interest exists. Talk to the provider if you have any questions about it.
Choosing the “Right” Therapist is Easier with a Consultation
A 15-minute phone consultation for potential clients is common practice for many therapists. It’s a great opportunity for you to ask the therapist questions about their practice, share what you are looking for from the counseling experience, and get a general impression of what it would be like to work with them. Choosing the “right” therapist for you often comes down to finding someone who blends well with you.
Keep in mind, if your issue doesn’t align with the counselor’s expertise, they may refer you to another counselor, which is ethically the best option. Both you and the counselor want to make sure that it’s a good fit.
Scheduling an Intake Session is the Next Step
If you find someone that seems like a good fit, schedule an intake or initial session with them. During the meeting, you and the counselor will discuss in greater depth your concerns and background, and they will likely share their approach and process. Be mindful of how your experience feels.
- Are you comfortable with the counselor and the space?
- Do you get the sense your confidentiality and privacy are important?
- Does the provider treat you with respect and professionalism?
- Does the counselor listen and respond with empathy and understanding?
- Does the counselor seem knowledgeable about your concerns?
Choosing the “Right” Therapist May Take Time
If something doesn’t feel right, you aren’t obligated to continue seeing any counselor. Good counselors understand that some clients may not fit well with their counseling style, and they may even be willing to refer you if they know of someone that could be a good fit. It may take a few tries to find a therapist, so don’t get discouraged. Choosing the “right” therapist for you is all about finding someone you feel comfortable with, trust, and can share your thoughts with openly.
Are We A Good Fit for You?
Your “right” therapist may just be Carrie Schatzman with Mental Wellness Center. She specializes in out-patient counseling for anxiety, couples / relationships, and LGBTQIAP+. Get to know her more here.
